Living with your boyfriend is one of the hardest things you can do. Sure, it’s not a nice thing to say, but guys can easily say the same about women too, so it’s a fair game. When you first start living together, you will definitely run into a few things that will make you miss your bachelorhood, but it will also be the best thing you can do for your future and overall happiness. If you really want to have a smooth transition, here are a few tips to keep in mind.
Will you find a new place, stay in your apartment or move in with them? If you both live in tiny studio apartments, this will be an easy decision, but if your SO already lives in a two-bedroom place, things will get a little trickier. Make sure to take various other factors into consideration like your commute, pet friendliness, area amenities (parks, restaurants, schools, shopping) and safety. Discuss your must-haves and you’ll definitely make a good decision.
Have a test run
Often people get too excited about moving in together that they totally forget about the big picture. No matter how long you’ve been together, this is the first time you’re cohabitating, so have a trial run. Take two weeks to stay together every night and see how things are going. Spending an occasional night over or going on a vacation together is definitely not the same as living together full-time, so have a test run.
Once you move in together, you’ll find yourself arguing about the most insignificant things. According to research, many couples who share a place argue about clutter and more than 50% of them list their partner’s clothing as the biggest cause of the argument. Unfortunately, most of us have tight apartments, especially people living in big cities like London or Sydney, so you need to discuss your storage space. Before you contact the best removalists in your area, you need to purge your possessions and think what you really need in your shared space. Movers won’t mind your clutter, but your partner definitely will and for all the right reasons!
Have a budget
While people today hate to talk about money, it’s really important when you live with someone. In order to avoid money issues and stupid arguments, you and your partner should come up with a monthly budget that will involve all your combined expenses and earnings. Of course, you don’t have to make it 50-50 if your partner earns substantially more. In case you have very specific dietary needs, you might want to offer to pay for groceries and that’s fine. No matter what you decide, if you agree on your budget, you will avoid many uncomfortable situations.
Don’t argue about chores
If there are dirty dishes in the sink, don’t let your partner come home to them—you should know they need to be washed. While this household dynamic takes some time to acquire, once you do, you’ll always have a clean home and zero chore arguments!
Compromise like crazy
Compromise is God-given. No matter if it comes to the color of your sofa or your choice of restaurant, make sure to consider both of your preferences and needs and come up with a good solution that will make everyone happy. This is truly the key to any relationship and living situation.
Carve out your own space
Sure, you live together, but that doesn’t mean you have to be glued at the hip! Actually, spending some time apart is great for your relationship. So, maintain at least some semblance of personal space by carving out a tiny space just for you. If your space is too tiny, make sure to regularly leave the apartment and do something on your own while your partner relaxes at home and vice versa.
You’ll love coming home to your SO
If you’re scared of living together with your partner, remember this: You’ll love coming home to someone who loves you. In case you used to spend a lot of time together already, you might think sharing a place won’t be so different, but it will. Every time you come home from a rough day in the office or feel poorly, you will have someone who will be there to comfort you no matter what. That’s the best part of living with your significant other.
While choosing the perfect place, moving, compromising and risking your freedom doesn’t sound supper attractive, living with your loved one outweighs all the bad things of sharing space with someone. In time, you will create a home that will become a part of you and even decide to create a little family which is the biggest blessing in the world.